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To recap, here are some of the niggley things that have been making me glum lately:

• The whole long-distance marriage thing.
• I’m missing my friends back in California more and more every day, and missing the lifestyle too.
• The fact that I’m getting frustratingly little writing done as it’s too distracting to work from home with so many other people around, plus the fact that my non-academic IP address restricts my access to resources online.
• I can’t decide whether to knit or crochet.
• I have a horrid feeling that a jacket I’m crocheting is too small.
• My sewing machine is still broken.

However feeling down in the dumps and sorry for myself has lately got a bit too boring and has been doing nothing overall to aid these niggley stresses that are still niggling away at the back of my mind. So out of fear of falling further into a chasm of self pity, I thought I’d better be proactive and do something to haul myself back out- I’m naturally an optimistic soul and don’t really thrive in a pit of negativity. The forward movement of my immigration in the last couple of days has certainly helped, and it’s no coindence that my mood has ameliorated as that’s right up there at the top of  my little stress list right now. That all got FedEx-ed off this morning, so that’s one less thing to be moody about, hurrah.

Obviously there still remains the issue of missing my friends, but there’s not much I can do about the first right now except be patient. It’s natural to feel so near yet so far, especially that I’m just a matter of weeks away from having been home in England for an entire year now. Patience, patience, that’s what I need and in the meantime there’s always email and the phone.

Oxford

Work however is something that I’ve been rapidly losing patience with lately. BUT the big thing that I’m happy about is that I’m now officially allowed access to the Bodleian Library at Oxford! This is a source of great excitement as I’ve been getting frustratingly little research/writing done at home as it’s too distracting with so many other people around, plus the fact that my non-academic IP address restricts my access to resources online. It’s a bit of a commute to get there, but I think the effort will be worthwhile. I’m hoping to be able to go once or twice a week which should allow me to get something done yet still allow me to maximise family time. EEEPS I’m excited!!

Getting access to the libary was quite an adventure in itself- I had to fill in an application form, write a short personal statement about why I needed to have access, PROVIDE REFERENCES to support my application and then sit down and have a ‘chat‘ with one of the library registrars. It was a bit like having a job interview! They’re basically screening people to make sure that they’re not tourists wanting to look around inside, and as the lady ‘interviewing’ me put it, they want to “stop people who are just after a quiet place to sit with a book or a newspaper.” Anyway, thankfully I passed their screening, and now have a six month pass. I can’t wait to spend time walking past all the tourists and through the magic doors with the big NO VISITORS signs :D
By the time I’d been granted access, and had located and poked around inside the Science Libary (which was disappointingly unspectacular which is why I’m going to work in the main libary next time which is the famous one) much of the day had gone and I didn’t really have time to take any photos of Oxford- just the one above, and a very quick photoshoot with the special girl who had come with me. This was Ava’s first big outing since she arrived in her super cool car.

Ava in Oxford

So the work stuff, *sorted*. Now for the hobby stuff….

After humming and haahing for about two or three months, I *finally* decided tonight to frog the crocheted jacket that I had started to make earlier this year. Deep down I wasn’t happy with how the sizing was turning out and for that reason had put the project onto a hiatus. There’s nothing worse than pursuing a major crafting project when your heart’s just not in it.

this is now no more

So my crochet is now no more- all unraveled and now just balls of yarn. But this single action has also killed another bird as with this project now temporarily shelved, I’m free to get back on with my knitting and not have the difficult decision to make between the two yarn projects. YAY!

Now there’s just the small matter of getting my sewing machine fixed, but I can do that next week :D
Fingers crossed other things will continue to improve at the same rate as the past few days… here’s hoping!

9 Responses to “Proactive and productive!”

Say, I was just thinking since my daughter went away to Italy and we got hooked up with Skype.com to talk to each other, did you ever try it? I don’t know how you communicate with your husband and friends in the U.S. but skype.com is free and you can talk and see each other for free. You can make little calls or talk instantly messaging. It’s pretty neat. You might already have a way to do this but I thought I might mention it to you.

June 20th, 2008

“stop people who are just after a quiet place to sit with a book or a newspaper”

Hee! Quite a mission statement for a library.

Congrats on passing the screening process! And good luck with your research. :)

June 21st, 2008

Ooh, I’m viewing this on Richard’s beeg screen, and Ava’s hair looks wonderful in the sunlight!
I do like the way you have approached your situation - identified the negatives and strategised to bring on the positives! Looking forward to seeing the ensuing knitting … :-)

melissa
June 21st, 2008

Well, I’m just relieved someone else is expressing their discontent and not just me!
It’s ok to write about the troughs as well as the falls.
As for your library success, well done! I know all about these exquisite sacred library memberships being a student and I frequently take refuge in one particularly nice one housed in a Stately home where I can study, do boolian things and sit in a quiet corner with a newspaper.

Have fun!

June 21st, 2008

I meant the PEAKS as well as the troughs. oooh!

June 21st, 2008

Thanks for the info on Skype Junebug- unfortunately he’s not allowed to use instant messenger-type programs at work, so we just stick to email and phonecalls. We both have blackberries so it’s pretty easy to keep in touch without disturbing each other too much (the 8 hour difference is a pain as he’s always at work, and I’m always about to go to bed, or one of us is always asleep!). I hope your daughter is having fun in Italy!

Kalin- I really had to hold in the giggle when she said that, as really all *I’m* after is a quiet place to sit with a pile of things to read :lol: !!!

Melissa- this was the first time I’d taken her out and WOW OH WOW I was amazed at how beautifully she photographs. And gosh, when I photograph her with the flash…OMG!! Her hair is AMAZING! She is one pretty little dolly!

Oh Katie, I hope you feel better soon, sounds like you’ve had a rough past month what with all of that to deal with. And your library sounds completely wonderful, I think *all* libraries should be housed in historic buildings!! I hope you get back to your normal self soon, and good luck with all the hard work of studying, I know how hard it is to get back into after a little break *hugs*

June 21st, 2008

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Well, I hope you did the touristy thing and went to see Duke Humphries first thing. Since this is my university, I have life-long access hassle-free, so I had no idea they would be quite so strict about their admittance policy. And I swear to god, I have seen people reading newspapers and novels in there - usually ancient, musty academic types :D

September 5th, 2008